The novel Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James has been fervently sweeping the US nation…It’s a New York Times bestseller, the entire trilogy has been optioned by Universal Studios — and women of all ages seem to be enthralled by its especially erotic storyline. 

In case you don’t know what Fifty Shades of Grey is about…let us briefly explain: 

In this novel, a young university student named Anastasia finds herself romantically captivated by a gentleman named Christian. He’s just a few years older than she is…

As it turns out, Christian likes to be Dominant in bed (with a capital “D”)…In fact, it’s the ONLY way he knows how to be in bed.

Completely inexperienced sexually (and emotionally charmed by Christian) Anastasia enters into a relationship with him. Their relationship is highly sexual with an unequal power distribution (Christian basically dominates her in bed like BDSM-style). Its extreme to say the very least.

As it turns out, many married women in the US have claimed that reading this book has spiced up their otherwise banal sex lives in their marriages. It reignited a degree of passion for them and ultimately helped them have a more successful marriage. They’ve even been giving their husbands copies of the book to read to give them “tips” and “ideas” of how to be in bed.

But – let’s be serious — is this kind of sexual relationship healthy? Is it morally wrong or corrupt? Or is it something that exists for a reason in this purpose-driven world?

Well, in a world that’s purposefully organized by an omni-potent God-Creator, everything serves a key function toward helping us grow toward godlikeness – or it wouldn’t exist. Sexually extreme BDSM relationships are no exception…

Sometimes these relationships might be very healthy for people and other times they may be unhealthy for people….but in both cases, if someone feels compelled to be part of one it just means that it serves a vital purpose in helping them grow toward greater godlikness (greater complexity, wholeness, happiness, etc). 

As humans we evolve and develop through both pain and pleasure. Both are motivating factors in our lives….pain drives us away from that which might not be best for us and pleasure brings us closer to the things we need to grow and develop into more complete human beings.

So…if the ideas presented in Fifty Shades of Grey appear pleasurable for you and the idea of acting out in that way sexually appeals to you, then perhaps it’s an indispensable part of your journey toward becoming more godlike… but that doesn’t mean that the relationship won’t end painfully. It very well might – and it might not. If you’re married, maybe it’ll help you find that place of passion that drives any successful marriage…maybe it won’t though.

On the other hand, if the idea of this sort of relationship does NOT appeal to you in any way (or you’re tremendously turned off by it) then most likely it’s not meant to be part of your journey and you should stay away from that sort of dynamic…But just remember, other people may need different experiences than you need, so they too can develop and grow into more complete, more aware individuals.

So, could bedroom spanking (which has recently gone mainstream) be the trick to a successful marriage? That’s for you and only you to decide with your partner. Personally, we’re not into it.

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Click here to listen to this recent episode of Finding Your Supreme Power. In it we interview author, speaker, and self mastery expert Jennifer Hoffman along with Delaine Moore, an accomplished woman who engages in this kind of dominant/submissive relationship and says it works wonders for her life to this day! It’s certainly a riveting and fun yet insightful show.

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